Does being a woman automatically make me a mother? I'm already a mother to a 2-year-old Maine Coon cat. Isn't that enough? Later on, I started thinking about what might happen if my boyfriend and I do get our act together and settle down. I don't know that I have the wife gene either. What if settling isn't actually what I want? What if that's just the lie I have been telling myself because it's expected of me?